Some people, like myself, have a fear of failure. My fear is manifested through hesitation and procrastination especially when dealing with the unknown. Others manifest this fear through the inability and/or unwillingness to admit a failure. The latter group greatly inhibits their own personal growth through the rationalization of error. “A man (woman) must be big enough to admit his mistakes, smart enough to profit from them, and strong enough to correct them.” – John C Maxwell
The late and great Notorious B.I.G. once said, “even when I’m wrong, I got my point across.” A strong ego and above average intelligence is the formula for a strong leader and/or a complete failure. The ego convinces us that we are infallible and the intellect confirms it with seemingly rational reason. Instead of analyzing what errors we have made and making an effort to rectify them, our ego and intellect join forces to scour a situation for the wrongdoings of others. We look for any far-fetched reason to prove, “we were right.”
How can we resolve this issue? In any situation where there is possible failure or conflict, you must assume it is your fault. Ask yourself, “What could I have done (can still do) differently to alter the outcome of this situation?” If you are able to answer that question, then continue by analyzing why you choose to do what lead to the failure/conflict instead of the alternate courses of action. Self-analysis and understanding are cornerstones of maturity and wisdom. Understanding yourself is the first step towards understanding everything else.
Is this you? Do you rarely apologize? Has anyone ever called you arrogant, egotistical, smug, self-absorbed, conceited, or selfish? Do you feel confident in your ability to analyze others but feel attacked when anyone attempts to analyze you?