A good girl with a secret
Based on a true story Tamika has a dynamite personality. She’s funny, smart, sexy, and loves poetry. She rarely complains and is always willing to help those in need. Every guy she meets immediately adores her. They constantly ask, “You’re such a great girl, why are you single?” The answer is simple.
Sometimes good girls date bad guys. This particular bad guy said and did all the right things, seemingly. He was handsome, successful and fun. Like many good things, this relationship came to a tragic end. After dating for a few month, his “baby momma” began stalking Tamika and causing drama at her workplace. Eventually she had to call the police and end it.
About 3 years after the end of their relationship, Tamika heard from a friend that this guy has herpes and had given it to at least 2 other women. She reacted how anyone would react to the news… with panic, fear, and then a rush to the doctor to get tested.
She tested positive and swore to herself to never hurt anyone in the way that this guy has hurt her. After crying… alot, making some awkward phone calls to the guys she’s dated over the past three years, and some research into herpes and natural cures; she has made peace with it and allowed herself to have non-sexual relationships with guys.
Fast forward to today. Tamika’s been talking to this awesome guy. She really likes him but she has a dilemma. If she tells him, she fears that he won’t understand and will reject her. If she doesn’t tell him, she fears he may feel rejected by the lack of intimacy and in turn reject her.
She knows that there are people who have her issue and have families. A friend of hers has it and she seems to have a healthy relationship with this guy she’s been dating for over a year now. They even have a child together. Tamika knows it is possible, its just that initial fear.
She doesn’t want them to cut her off before they get to know her. She thinks, “at least once they know me, they can make an emotional decision. If after knowing me, they feel like ‘naw i dont want to pursue her’ I’d still have some respect and we can still be friends.”
What would you do?
It’s difficult enough to find a mate without added complications. Should she keep it platonic or take the risk of outright rejection? If you were the guy and really felt connected to her, would you continue dating her with the knowledge of her STD?