A sincere word in a needing ear
I whisper to her
Promising her the world
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[Poem] One with the Oneness
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Category Archives: relationships
Peacocking
I’m a people watcher… not in a creepy way. I’m just a fan of sociology and the quirkiness of human behavior. I always wonder what people are thinking or why they make certain choices. Many of us (myself included) waste much of our life peacocking with little to no result. Yet, we do it as if it was an ingrained part of our culture. Why?
You might be wondering, “what the hell is peacocking?” In the wild, the male peacock flares out his feathers when he is trying to get the female’s attention. In our world, peacocking is when a man uses some sort of accentuation or material possession to receive attention from women. This economy is fueled by peacocking and reinforced by every double take, smile, and/or stare that a women gives a man exhibiting this behavior. Continue reading
Crowded by loneliness
Every morning while riding the train to work, I am surrounded by individuals attempting to remain solitary, anonymous, and oblivious. They listen to their IPOD’s and concentrate on their newspaper, book or cellphone conveniently ignoring the world around them. Possible soul mates, business partners, or any other kind of life changing relationships never begin because no one dares to speak to the person next to them. For some reason, beings who were once innately social have become… anti. Continue reading
Why men cheat
For the purposes of this blog, let’s liken cheating to the dormant genetic disease Eczema. Eczema is a slight defect in the immune system which when triggered by stress, irritants, or change in environment causes an insatiably itchy rash. As most people mature, their eczema diminishes and is less effected by triggers. Cheating is a defect in one’s morality which when triggered by stress, irritants, or changes in environment causes insatiable self-centeredness. Continue reading
Sometimes lack of communication is key
Communication is key. We have all heard it before, but what does that really mean? Nothing. The cliché is incomplete and somewhat dangerous. Effective communication is much more important than just communicating. People communicate angrily, annoyingly and without considering their audience all too often. When expressing ourselves, especially in public, we need to remember that the things we say will never be unheard. Continue reading
Relationship Resumé
Courtney Q. Dater
101 lovelost Lane. u Atlanta, GA 30305 (999) 999-1028 e: IneedLove@email.com
Objective
This is something that is rarely spoken about and often assumed. It is important not to lie to yourself here. Your objective isn’t what you should want; it is what you actually are seeking. So, before you ask him/her, ask yourself. “What is my objective?” Are you just floating along and playing it by ear? Or are you the type who has mentally mapped out your entire life, including a time frame? Do you want marriage, children and a house in the country with a white picket fence? Or is this going to be a strictly friends with benefits relationship since you are still biding time to be with your ex? The truth shall set you free.
[Poem] 2 weeks notice
To Whom it may concern,
You are my greatest weakness. I have an uncanny attraction for you that I’ve never been able to overcome. I see in you the potential of perfection: tall, statuesque, intelligent, vulnerable, strong, and kind with a hint of rage. You are the complex enigma that would take my mind a lifetime to unravel and I love it. I love you. However, what my eyes see in you is a reflection of my own selfish desires. I lust after your body and mind as a mission to be accomplished. I am open with you to prove to myself that I am not afraid to be open, but I am open only to you because in actuality I am only willing to be afraid of one person. I have allowed you to see me in a way that few others have and when you rejected me all those times, feelings of past rejections rushed from their hidden places to the forefront of my memory. With the turn of a phrase and the flicker of an eye lash you can turn despair into ecstasy and vice versa. I have given you a gift that you did not want nor ask for. I have blamed you for neglecting and misusing a gift that I doubt you even knew you possessed. We never miss anything until it is gone and it is gone. Thank you for your time and consider this my 2 weeks notice.
-A.D. Wright
The anti-social network: outsourcing romance
A recently divorced female friend asked me a seemingly simple question… “How is the dating scene in Atlanta?” I responded, “It’s really easy to meet people but very difficult to weed out the losers and get to know someone of quality and value on a deeper level.” The club/party scene in Atlanta (and I’m told across the country) is basically an elaborate game of Spy vs Spy. People pull up to the valet in cars that they can’t afford, wearing clothes that they plan to return and boasting jobs/businesses that aren’t as impressive as they are being portrayed to be. She then asked me about speed dating, happy hours, and online dating sites. Which prompted me to think… Have we become to “busy” to be social? Continue reading
If you ask me, I’m ready
A good relationship is derived from a complex formula of personality, attraction and timing. Attractiveness and compatibility are solely based on your personal preferences. Some women adore a man with a sense of humor while other women prefer a serious man and would see a comical man as “corny.” Similarly, one man might see a woman as too skinny while another man might view that same woman as too fat. People who claim to have no preference usually haven’t taken the time to analyze themselves well enough to know and articulate what they want, which brings me to the main factor… Timing. Continue reading