Do Home Wreckers Really Exist?
Since the creation of marriage, married men (and women) have engaged in infidelity. If you follow Hip-hop, Pop or Politics, you can name a few publicized scandals. Shortly after affairs are revealed in the public eye, the “other woman” is crucified as a harlot and deemed a home wrecker. Have you ever discovered someone is the “other woman” and called her a whore or something worse? Yeah, me neither. 🙂
A friend of mine was cheated on by her husband (true story). In an effort to make the relationship work, she requested that he call the “other woman” – in front of her – and explain to that in the best interest of his marriage, their relationship needed to end. He obliged. In a complete fury, the “other woman” snidely said, “Tell Miss ‘Ebony Brown’ I said hello!” (calling my friend by her maiden name to add insult to injury) as she knew it was not his idea to make the call.
In a rage, my friend vented about the issue and called the “other woman” everything but a child of God. I couldn’t help but remind her that this woman owed her no loyalty. It was in fact, her husband that gave the “other woman” the authority and power to call his wife out of her name.
A wrecker is defined as: someone who demolishes or dismantles buildings as a job. Are the “other woman’s” intentions to conquer and destroy? Is the man not held accountable for his actions?
While the concept of respecting others cannot be refuted, men (and women) are not mindless pawns. A consenting adult cannot be “stolen” from another. If so, call the police. Perhaps he should be considered the home wrecker, as it is his home to keep and not hers. Should the “other woman” be responsible for the integrity of someone else? Why is it that the adulterer is the unsuspecting puppet and the “other woman,” the scheming manipulator?
Furthermore did you wreck your own home? The easiest person to blame is the “other woman,” the second is the man, the hardest is to self analyze…but that’s another topic. Or is it? 🙂