Today while running, I heard a parent say something that I’ve heard many times before. “You better stay out the sun before you get even darker.” I thought to myself, “for the rest of this child life she will most likely feel negatively about dark complected people because her mother said that being dark is something that she should avoid. It’s a negative.” The same thing can be said about “good and bad hair” or any of the other hang ups Black tend to people have. Is The Black Inferiority Complex caused by society’s view of us or is it how our parents and grandparents taught us to view ourselves?
Most young children would not dare to challenge their parents opinions. To the contrary, most children take everything their parents say as Gospel. Naturally, our parents are our first teachers and they will always have a special position of authority in our minds.Eventually some of us come to the realization that our parents are just regular people who taught us from the extent of their limited knowledge.
In the film “Waterboy,” Adam Sandler’s character was brainwashed by his mother’s mis-teachings. When a professor contradicted the teachings of his mother, he denied the truth and became very angry.
Although the movie was a comedy, the behavior of the mis-educated is the same. People hold on to their beliefs as if it is the air they breathe. It is very difficult to convince them otherwise.
As intelligent adults, we analyze and validate what people tell us. In college many of us were taught to recognize fallacies (a deceptive, misleading, false or erroneous reasoning that renders arguments logically unsound.) Have you ever wondered how ideals that seem blatantly and obviously false are believed so strongly and by so many? Next time a friend, co-worker, or associate tries to poison your ear with false wisdom, ask him/her where and when did he/she learn this “fact.” Usually the “information” has come from someone whom is held in high regard and has not been verified by any other source.
Have you parents ever told you something that you have found to be completely untrue or myth? How many ideals do you believe to be true that you have not actually analyzed for yourself? Do you think brainwashing your children with positive messages would effect them positively?