Peacocking

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I’m a people watcher… not in a creepy way. I’m just a fan of sociology and the quirkiness of human behavior. I always wonder what people are thinking or why they make certain choices. Many of us (myself included) waste much of our life peacocking with little to no result. Yet, we do it as if it was an ingrained part of our culture. Why?

You might be wondering, “what the hell is peacocking?” In the wild, the male peacock flares out his feathers when he is trying to get the female’s attention. In our world, peacocking is when a man uses some sort of accentuation or material possession to receive attention from women. This economy is fueled by peacocking and reinforced by every double take, smile, and/or stare that a women gives a man exhibiting this behavior.

When I was in my early teens, the guys with the nicest clothes and the freshest haircuts seem to get the most attention from the girls. Conversely, the guys who had parents that refused to buy overpriced (and in retrospect hideous) Cross Colours, Karl Kani’s and Tommy Hilfiger were overlooked… unless of course they played a sport. This undeniable truth stayed constant through adulthood. The items of flash changed as time went on but the purpose still remains the same.

I’m not sure from where this love of materialism stems but I assume slavery someway plays a part as it does with most of Black Cultures self-destructive tendencies. How is “looking nice” self-destructive? You might ask. People who derive their worth from superficial things like their appearance and possessions enter in a viscous cycle of suffering that always ends in loneliness and sadness. There’s always something new to buy, something else to do, good will never be good enough for these people. Eventually vanity turns into to pride; which turns into envy; which turns into greed; and so on.

How many young Black men are in prison because their peacocking went too far? Why do you think young men sell drugs, join gangs, rob and steal? Money. Why do they “need” money? In some cases, for survival but ask any public school teacher, social worker, police officer, or a public defense attorney and they will tell you that most of these knuckleheads commit crimes because their peers think its cool. They came to the same conclusion that I did… For some reason a dude in Bentley is more attractive than his identical twin riding the bus.

I am in no way blaming the downfall of Black culture on women but… with great power comes great responsibility. That being said… Ladies, you have unfathomable power over the minds of men and therefore a duty to guide their behavior. We all know that if women thought accountants where sexy, calculators and ledger books would be sold out across the country.

What do you think?

“Even the chariot of a king loses its glitter in the course of time; even the body loses beauty and strength. But goodness does not grow old with the passage of time.” – Buddha

One Reply to “Peacocking”

  1. Jada says:

    Great article!

    I will say that it goes both ways. I drive 2 very different cars and get a very different kind of attention from guys when I drive the nicer, newer one.

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