Talkin’ bout good and bad hair

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  1. Suzzane says:

    People should really stop and think about this whole “debate”. It’s nonsense. Not everyone has the same grade of hair, some people have wavy hair, others have extremely kinky, hard to manage hair. A perm, while at times may be about fitting in, have you ever talked to a black female with her hair in her natural kinky, “i just stepped off the Amistad” state? It can be extremely hard to manage, and very time consuming. Often times a perm is just a time saver, not a way to look like a white woman. Talk to the black female who works out regularly and has to shower at the gym, then go straight to work. As nice as it may sound, “natural” is not an option for everyone. In fact, unless you have the “mulatto” hair, it’s not an option for most, successful black woman. For those under the impression that you can walk into any job interview with your natural hair all over the place, it’s time to wake up. It’s time to stop blaming black women for the choices they make in how they keep themselves. We did not invent the stereotypes and prejudices that have been forced upon us since the days of Willy Lynch. Unfortunately we just live in a world where we have to continue to deal with them. At the end of the day who cares whether you wear your hair natural, straight, weaved, wig’d, etc? Does anyone care whether Kim Kardashian, Brittany, Paris Hilton, Victoria Beckam, Jessica Simpson, etc are wearing their real hair, extensions, or a wig (and trust me not only do they rock them, but some have their own fake hair products)? Most likely, no. So let’s stop focusing on what black woman are doing and move on. There are bigger issues. Really it’s 2011, trust…there are bigger issues.

  2. Rikki Barron says:

    I can only speak from my personal experience but I believe going natural was the best decision I made b/c of the years of processing my hair, in the end it created more damage than anything. Some feel like they have to look like the magazine covers to get where they need to get on the corporate ladder but if people have an issue of how your hair grows naturally, I would have to second guess the system. It’s funny how some people allow others to define what beauty is. Plus the selling of so called “black hair products” is a 8-9 billion dollar industry. Unfortunately, the ones getting most of the cut is not black people. I have 3 children where 2 of them are girls. I do not alter their hair. I teach them that they are beautiful how the are. If they choose use perms and weaves when they are adults, that will be their decision.

  3. Tirani says:

    This topic irritates me on a number of levels.

    I have curly non-kinky hair. I guess according to your first responder that is “mulatto” hair. How offensive is that term?! REALLY!!! (Black people will never advance as long as we continue to divide ourselves) I have seen people from Ethiopia, Egypt, and other African countries with non-kinky hair. I guess they have “mulatto” hair as well. But I digress. The nature of hair is that it changes over the course of one’s lifetime. I was born with fuzzy, curly, easily tangled hair. It was straightened as a child and permed as a teenager and in my early twenties. Part of the reason for the alteration was due to the fact that I was EXTREMELY tender-headed and managing my hair after washing brought about post-traumatic stress like emotions (only slightly exaggerating). As I grew older my hair became less fuzzy, more frizzy, straighter at the roots and even more curly.

    I think it interesting that a number of people when they refer to “natural” hair are not referring to hair such as mine. They think if it is not very kinky it is not natural. I am also in the gym 5 out of 7 days a week and to waste money and time in a hair salon for a “do” that will resort to curls at the first drop of sweat just doesn’t make a lot of sense.

    I am the mother of a daughter who was also born very tender-headed. I decided to give her a “texturizer” as her hair is like mine was as a child to lesson the amount of tears that were encountered on a daily basis. Her hair was damaged as a result of this process. Our solution has been to discontinue the chemicals and go to the salon where her hair gets braided (no extra hair added) as this is the best natural way to assist her hair in growing back evenly.

    Sorry to write so much, I had a lot to say on this topic.

  4. summer says:

    I think it’s a shame that this topic of our collective hair has become so divisive. I wear my hair in it’s kinky-curly state, and have done so for the last 3+ years. I held a job as an associate director at a private, selective, predominantly white school in the South. I was promoted when my hair was already in its kinky state. I met with lenders and higher ups frequently while wearing fros, twists, pony puffs, etc. My unprocessed hair was no more an issue than the unprocessed hair of my Caucasian colleagues. And that’s all I’m asking for: Hair Equality.

    This ties in to the last quote that you posted, regarding women with natural hair eating processed foods. Why can’t I? How does that make me hypocritical? I am not natural because I’m a health nut, any more than Cindy or Becky is. I just think that the hair that grows out of my hair should be just as acceptable in its original, unaltered state as a white, Asian, other person’s is. And if I so choose, I can wear it that way while eating all the chicken nuggets I want, just like they can. It’s just that simple for me.

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  5. Jax says:

    I agree with Summer about all I want is hair equality. I just did the big chop and went Natural just before the new year. It was a decision I made on my own. Even though I enjoyed the convenience of relaxed hair..a part of me felt like I wasn’t embracing all of me..even though I enjoyed the convenience a part of me felt like I would be judged or treated differently with my natural kinks. So for almost four years of thinking about it finally this year I did it. Now I am not speaking for anyone this is just my experiences and my own feelings towards myself..those who want to perm can continue if that works for you it just stopped working for me because deep within myself I felt like I wasn’t embracing a God givin gift. Since I did it people have been looking at me funny-style and asking me what did I do to all that beautiful hair I had… is my hair no longer beautiful? As Summer said I just believe in hair equality. As black women (and men) we should support each other with how we choose to wear our hair. Sometimes I feel like there is a division between relaxed hair women and natural hair women. From what I have experienced lately it is like relaxed hair women think that naturally hair women is on this revolution to make everyone natural but no they are on their own hair journey… We should just support eachother..

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