The cure for heartbreak
Have you ever had a bad breakup? Does your ex-loved one haunt your thoughts and dreams? Most of us are unable to let go and/or too prideful to admit we’re hurt. The emotional pain just festers, sometimes for months. We don’t know what to do, who to talk to, or when to enter into another relationship. Some of people try celibacy, some go back to their bad relationship, and others try to fill their emotional void by seeking the affection of someone else, anyone else. Is there a cure?
Have an Irish Wake for your Dead Relationship!
What is an Irish Wake? Loosely defined, an Irish Wake is a celebration of a fallen loved one’s life. In a typical Irish Wake, family and friends go to the loved one’s home, bring food and “drink,” and tell stories of the deceased. They life, they cry, they get really drunk and let out all emotions. It is a process of mourning that allows a person let go of the deceased while in the company of family and friends.
How to have your Irish Wake. Gather your closest friends. I would suggest that the group is the same gender as you. High emotion and liquor are the perfect recipe for an accidental sexual experience that may make your life “more complex.” Also, your friends need to be trustworthy. Alcohol tends to be a truth serum. Ensure that your friends will not be compelled to hold the truth against you at a later date.
Next, decide in whose home you will have the Wake. Do not have the Wake in a public place. Once again, high emotion and liquor could make a public outing unsafe for you and the general public. After the food, drink, and people are in place, commence letting go.
Start drinking and keep talking. Rant and rave about your relationship and the the ex-loved one. It’s good to have something else happening in the background(music, sports, a movie) so there is no pressure on the distraught to “perform” for the group. The entire group is encouraged to share stories of their bad relationships. This will help to create an atmosphere of understanding and friendship.
Be careful not to judge or make insensitive jokes. Being offensive is how some people defend against the feeling of vulnerability. Simply, have a drunken good time with your friends and plan to make an all-nighter.
How should you feel after? Everyone reacts differently, but the common response should be a physical hangover and emotional exhaustion. You needed closure and closure is both mentally and physically exhaustive. Spend the next day doing mindless relaxing work like gardening, cleaning, or reading a fictional book. Thoughts and lingering feelings should not be avoided. Allow them to come and go. Enjoy them with curiosity, as if you are watching yourself from outside yourself. The pain won’t go away immediately but this will be a definite step in the right direction.
What do you think?