Would you date you?
Do you really know yourself? Not the image you “think” that you project, but the real you. Are you annoying, needy, demanding, negligent, temperamental… etc. Has anyone ever gazed into your eyes and asked, “Are you crazy?” Most of us believe our own lies and think we are the great people that we say we are…. but you can’t lie forever. When the nice clothing comes off and the make up or cologne is washed away, who are you really? Denial is a difficult river to cross, so you may have to call up a loved one (who is not afraid to hurt your feelings and destroy your self-esteem) to find out exactly what your flaws are… so you can begin reconciling them.
How do you behave? Would you put up with your selfishness, attitude, or just general unpredictable behavior? When most people think about long term relationships, they are thinking about possible father/mother of their children. When “little you” needs help with his/her homework will you be too hungover to help? Did Mommy spend the light bill on her new Gucci bag? Is Daddy with one of his other 4 families today? Look at your online bank statement. What are you spending money on? If its selfish short term enjoyment then maybe you’re not ready for a serious relationship.
Who are your friends? When we marry someone we marry their family and friends. You can’t be blamed for your family… that was luck of the draw. However, you choose your friends and are accountable for them. If you were dating someone with your friends would you trust them? There’s a difference between being out late with trustworthy people and being out late with the scoundrels of the earth. Are your friends womanizers, gold diggers, drug addicts, criminals, or just bitter haters that dislike all things good and wholesome in the world?
Those are my thoughts, what are yours?